Do you lead the day or does the day lead you? If it’s the latter, you’re in luck. This blog post is just for you.
If you aren’t sure, think about these situations below and if you roll your eyes even once, then again, this blog post is for you!
- You hit snooze more times than you planned.
- You move through the morning half-rushed, half-foggy, trying to get yourself together before the first meeting, the first message, the first demand.
- Your body is awake but your mind is already scattered and your energy feels like it is starting at a deficit.
That was me for a long time and when it became my daily pattern, the morning became the first place that I’d lose my energy and self leadership before the day even began. I’d hit snooze at least 4 times before trying to de-puff my face before my first meeting, hoping no one noticed or cared that I had basically just stumbled awake.
The Difference
Something I wish people told me much earlier is that I was doing myself no favours with my productivity or planning because now that I have a good routine going I can see that it is seriously a game changer.
Not because a morning routine magically fixes your whole life, but because it gives you some structure to land into before the day starts making demands of you. And this is something that makes a measurable difference when I’m working with clients who find themselves overwhelmed or burned out by the end of the work day.
Imagine two capable people who both have meetings from 9am to 4pm each day. They are both smart, both busy, and both trying to keep up with the demands of their life and work.
But only one of them has a clear morning routine.
Here’s what becomes the difference in their day:
(1) How transitions are used. If transitions aren’t planned, a lot of time gets wasted because most of us don’t automatically know what to do with the space between things. You finish a meeting, check your phone, open your email, respond to one message, remember something else, and suddenly your “quick break” has turned into 25 minutes.
(2) Whether breaks are protected or accidental. One person has thought about when they’ll take a break. The other works until they notice they need one, which usually means they are already tired and hungry. [read: this was me telling people I was “intermittent fasting” aka my adrenaline was too high to be hungry for breakfast!]
(3) How they enter the first major task or event of the day. One person feels more settled. The other feels like they ran here, got partially ready on the way, and needs coffee in order to wake up right before the first meeting.
The major difference between the person with a solid morning routine and the person without is that without one there is a feeling of just catching up all of the time or reacting to life as it comes. The intention is missing and it’s harder to stay on top of things.
With a steady morning routine you get to protect some of your priorities ahead of time. Even if things don’t go according to plan you are not starting from zero. You have something to come back to which makes it easier to adapt.
Designing for Reality aka Being Realistic
Now that you understand how much it can change your day to have a strong personal routine going, I’m sure you want to get started with designing one for yourself that makes you feel alive and ahead of the day. I want to caution you not to get too overzealous.
Design for your baseline, not your ideal.
Your baseline is what you are currently doing consistently, not what you think you should be doing or what the ideal version of you would do if you woke up tomorrow with a completely different personality.
For example, if you don’t walk at all in the morning, then your first goal probably can’t be 60 minutes. Your baseline is 0, so ideally you’d make the goal 15 minutes.
It never feels good to the ego to accept a lower number because our ego wants the dramaaaaaaa of the big win and the perfect “new me” moment. But trust me, the smaller number gives you something to celebrate instead of constantly feeling like you can’t measure up.
If your baseline is 0 for the morning walk because you don’t normally do it, and your first goal is 15 minutes each weekday, then completing that for a week already becomes a win. Perhaps the next week you make it 20 minutes, or you keep the 15-minute walk and stack on a new habit.
Your routine has to match your real life in order to stick and build real momentum. Actually, there’s more to the stacking thing…
Habit Stacking
Habit stacking is a strategy where you attach a new habit to an existing habit that already happens consistently.
So perhaps you achieve the 15 minute morning walk and are happy with it. You can decide to use that momentum and stack on another habit like a short stretch. Now your first two activities are designed to give you a clear mind and a body with less tension.
When this is consistent, stack on the third habit like choosing the first three priorities for the day.
The mistake is stacking too quickly because the first habit feels good for two days and suddenly we want to become a brand new person by Friday ;)
Remember: design for your baseline, celebrate wins, stack on other habits as you build the daily momentum. You won’t be perfect, so make a plan to get right back on track when a slip up happens!
Design Your Simple Routine
Choose 3 morning activities that are close to how you naturally operate and that would be easy to try to implement without strain in the morning. We are aiming for the easiest attempt!
Need help? Take a look at this list of morning activities:
- Body: stretching, walking, dance, shower, water
- Mind: brain dump, reading, top 3 priorities, time blocking
- Spirit: prayer, meditation, gratitude journalling
- Home+grounding: make the bed, breakfast, tea or coffee ritual
The strongest routines are usually simple and sustainable. So if this list felt frustratingly simple that’s a good thing. Your ideal routine is one that feels mindless and simple, so you can repeat it without growing to resent it.
When you are picking your core 3 activities, keep in mind that your routine should:
✅ support the identity you are actually trying to practice
✅ increase clarity over your state of mind and what you are prioritizing
✅ reduce the feeling of chaos or overwhelm
You will know you have hit the sweet spot when you start to feel more ease in your home and your body in the morning hours. You’ll feel clearer and like you aren’t fighting the day before it even starts.
What will you implement tomorrow morning that can help you take better control of your day?
If you still need some convincing, I’ll tell you that a good morning routine can be the difference between someone who feels like they have a good degree of control over themselves, their projects, and their surroundings, and someone who constantly feels like the day is running away from them.
A morning routine is not about becoming an idealized version of yourself. It is about reducing the number of decisions, transitions, and nervous system disruptions that hijack your day before it begins.
Plus, we all say that we want to get a little more organized and that if we were just a little more organized, everything in our lives would fall into place. So here I am serving you your first step on a silver platter.
Simple changes that can increase your mental health, productivity, focus, and self-care habits.
If you are ADHD, neurodiverse, or someone who struggles with getting started, this applies even more because the right morning routine can give your brain and body enough structure and momentum to actually begin.
And it feels good, did I already say that?
If you know that this is a good start, but not nearly enough to get your momentum fired up and and you need help identifying what is actually getting in the way of your momentum, check out Break the Pattern and the Energy Leadership Index Assessment.
Both are strong starting points if you are ready to understand your patterns more clearly and build the structure to move differently!
Questions? Email me at hello@rinawinston.com!
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